BDSM 101 Part II

Why do people uses RACK instead of SSC?
RACK - Risk Aware Consensual Kink is inherently dangerous. It fits better when applied to BDSM as a whole because it pushes a scene and it indicates a level of risk.

SSC - Safe Sane and Consensual is not as edgy or risky and more of a coined term now for the Vanilla folks to use.

Basic Negotiation

Can be very simple
      "Do you want to play?"
      Answer - "Yes"

Factor in how well you know the person and trust them. Is this an effective negotiation for strangers? No.

Consider
      * limits
      * sexual contact
      * hard - absolutely not
      * soft - unsure/maybe
      * Watch somebody play with another person before you play with them

Aftercare
      * It is different for everyone
      * It is a cooling off period
      * Dom/mes may need them - for example, one Dom likes to email 2 days later to say, "Are you okay?"
      * Aftercare is part of the negotiation - tell each other what you expect after a scene.
      * Sub drop - after the endorphins wear off, drop into a depression which could be crying and/or coming apart.

To help a sub drop end quicker - give the sub dark chocolate to help.

Different people do things differently after a scene. Some sleep and some want to talk about it.

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