BDSM 101 Part II
Why do people uses RACK instead of SSC?
RACK - Risk Aware Consensual Kink is inherently dangerous. It fits better when applied to BDSM as a whole because it pushes a scene and it indicates a level of risk.
SSC - Safe Sane and Consensual is not as edgy or risky and more of a coined term now for the Vanilla folks to use.
Basic Negotiation
Can be very simple
"Do you want to play?"
Answer - "Yes"
Factor in how well you know the person and trust them. Is this an effective negotiation for strangers? No.
Consider
* limits
* sexual contact
* hard - absolutely not
* soft - unsure/maybe
* Watch somebody play with another person before you play with them
Aftercare
* It is different for everyone
* It is a cooling off period
* Dom/mes may need them - for example, one Dom likes to email 2 days later to say, "Are you okay?"
* Aftercare is part of the negotiation - tell each other what you expect after a scene.
* Sub drop - after the endorphins wear off, drop into a depression which could be crying and/or coming apart.
To help a sub drop end quicker - give the sub dark chocolate to help.
Different people do things differently after a scene. Some sleep and some want to talk about it.
RACK - Risk Aware Consensual Kink is inherently dangerous. It fits better when applied to BDSM as a whole because it pushes a scene and it indicates a level of risk.
SSC - Safe Sane and Consensual is not as edgy or risky and more of a coined term now for the Vanilla folks to use.
Basic Negotiation
Can be very simple
"Do you want to play?"
Answer - "Yes"
Factor in how well you know the person and trust them. Is this an effective negotiation for strangers? No.
Consider
* limits
* sexual contact
* hard - absolutely not
* soft - unsure/maybe
* Watch somebody play with another person before you play with them
Aftercare
* It is different for everyone
* It is a cooling off period
* Dom/mes may need them - for example, one Dom likes to email 2 days later to say, "Are you okay?"
* Aftercare is part of the negotiation - tell each other what you expect after a scene.
* Sub drop - after the endorphins wear off, drop into a depression which could be crying and/or coming apart.
To help a sub drop end quicker - give the sub dark chocolate to help.
Different people do things differently after a scene. Some sleep and some want to talk about it.
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