30 Days of Kink Day 22: What do you think is important in keeping a BDSM relationship healthy? How does it differ from a vanilla relationship?
I honestly don't think there is much of a difference between a BDSM and a Vanilla relationship when it comes to being healthy. Both require trust and communication. The more of both, the better. The difference for me is a BDSM relationship seems to emphasize this more due to the nature of the scenes that can occur. This is because there can be more instances of misunderstanding and possible injury. In addition, there can be more defined roles for people. I believe people inherently prefer structure in their lives. Even those who say they hate it and are against it, without the structure, there is nothing they are railing against.